INTJs take note: the Thinker/Feeler divide has nothing to do with how intelligent either person is, but it is a In general, INTJs can come across as overly negative, picking apart the inefficiencies or shortcomings of any situation, and this can exhaust an INFJ.
My INFJ takes no particular steps to get to where she’s going faster.
Instead, her attention is on the conversation, music, or something else enjoyable.
And, for most of my life, I felt like it was very hard to find a partner who really “got” me.
That changed when I started dating an INFJ—someone who is like me in so, so many ways, yet as different as the sun and the moon in others.
Here are the complete car models of both types: When a disagreement comes up, and both partners use their Copilot functions, they’re likely to defray it with no major argument.
The INTJ, for example, might think, “If I just give in on this, our plans for tonight won’t get derailed,” leading them to compromise—a perfect use of Effectiveness.When I leave the apartment, for example, I make sure the key is in my hand before I get to the door; my INFJ waits till she’s there and then looks for it in her purse.In the car, I give most of my attention to driving efficiently—for example, switching lanes ahead of time to go around someone who’s making a left turn.This mental process, which I liken to metacognition, is what allows human beings to step back and take a bird’s-eye view of the world, including how other people think.together, they find it easy to see past each other’s differences and identify underlying similarities.As an INTJ, it seems obvious to me that the “best” way to achieve any goal is to plan out the steps to reach it; the only potential downside is dragging your feet too long in the planning stage.