If mere physical attraction or some kind of emotive, frilly, this-is-the-one weirdness is driving the speed, then, yes.If the relationship is outpacing knowledge of character, reputation, and knowledge of godliness, then that is way too quick.And contrary to what some girls think, a lot of guys find this attractive. Watching movies that have steamy love scenes or listening to music with questionable lyrics can desensitize us and make immoral things seem “not so bad.” "All of us are really impacted by what we see and what we listen to, so keeping those standards high is really important,” she says.
In the book, written in a 90-day devotional format, St.
James shares some of her own struggles as well as advice on how to remain pure.
And I think those pieces are a much safer gauge than whether they highlight passages in their Bible and show up to service every week.
Is there such a thing as “too fast” in Christian dating?
“I think when we know that God loves us and He’s got the best plans for us, then we will want to live His way.
podcast and answered ten questions on singleness and dating.How do you know if a dating relationship is moving too quickly emotionally, or too quickly toward marriage?I am going to be real cautious about saying there is such a thing as “too fast.” What I would rather ask is this: What’s driving the speed?Within the covenant community of faith, there should be those around a person that can speak of their reputation and whether they are serious about growing in the Lord and putting sin to death in their life. Is there seriousness in this person to grow in their relationship and understanding with the Lord?Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.We get a lot of questions from young Christian men and women who are “not yet married.” Their season of life awakens many desires and hopes, uncertainties and insecurities, and tricky pastoral questions.